Being twenty one!

Confused yet focussed, lonely yet surrounded by people, confident yet unsure!

Contradictory phrases aren’t they? I believe, that’s how every individual between the age range of 20 and 23 feels. When I discussed the same with a close associate of mine, he forwarded a mail which described this whole feeling of insecurity as quarter life crisis.

This is the period where we get to know ourselves better. We realise that in spite of enjoying people’s company, at times we really want to be left alone to ponder about questions that are unanswered. We like the freedom away from home but still crave for family. We want to feel independent but don’t want to be left alone.

Change is an inevitable part during this period. It becomes difficult to handle it because there is no way we can avoid the change. We desperately want to rewind and re live lives that we had a few years back. We want to go back to our comfortable cocoons than face the realities of life. But unfortunately there is no way that we can go back; we are left without an option other than moving on! We face the change, we accept it (without a choice) and we learn to move on.

The whole transition from that of a lazy college going student to a person with a certain amount of seriousness towards life is quite challenging. We start becoming more concerned and serious about how life would be after the next two years. We start thinking more in terms of what exactly we want from our career. We start questioning some of the strongest beliefs that we’ve had for years now. Acting immature no longer seems fun. We want to make a space where we can place ourselves and feel good about it. In short, the journey to make an identity for oneself begins.

It’s definitely the most crucial and difficult phase in life. But these ups and downs make life more interesting and challenging.
So, this post is dedicated to all those people who are going through ‘quarter life crisis’. Laugh and live through it! Everything will fall in place someday 